A teacher once said, “No matter what you do in life, never seek the reason for your happiness in someone else. Never be so extremely dependent on others that if your expectations are not met, you feel disappointed—especially emotionally.”
This is not just advice; it’s a philosophy that helps maintain inner peace. Many of us seek fulfillment in others, but true fulfillment exists within ourselves. If we build our happiness, peace, and satisfaction based on someone else’s actions or behavior, it can easily be shattered.
Be Your Own Source of Happiness
Whenever you feel low, take some time for yourself. Make yourself a warm cup of coffee and sit quietly in your room. Go outside in the gentle afternoon sun, read a book by your favorite author, or engage in a hobby that you love. When your heart feels heavy, take a walk alone and have a conversation with yourself. If you have any creative talent, immerse yourself in it. This will keep you from dwelling on negativity or depending on others for emotional support.
Maintain Self-Confidence and Self-Respect
Never expose your pain or weaknesses publicly, and never mock others to feel better about yourself. Every person has flaws, but those flaws make them unique. Always respect yourself and never belittle yourself for any failure. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn, and staying true to yourself is the key to growth.
Love and Take Care of Yourself
If you achieve something, reward yourself. If you fail, don’t punish yourself—support yourself instead. Rather than feeling bitter about failure, identify your strengths and make a commitment to yourself. Don’t try to find validation in the eyes of others.
At the same time, becoming self-sufficient is crucial. You need to establish financial independence so that even in the worst mood swings, you can buy yourself a chocolate bar, gift yourself something on your birthday, or share your happiness by celebrating with underprivileged children. Save up and buy that dress you love—treating yourself well is an essential part of self-care.
Normalize Enjoying Time Alone
Eating alone at a restaurant or spending time in a park by yourself should not be considered unusual. In fact, it is a way to build a deeper relationship with yourself. If possible, buy yourself fresh flowers from time to time. Keeping flowers in your room will spread a pleasant fragrance, automatically lifting your mood.
Stop Seeking Approval and Revenge from Others
Remember, it is impossible to make everyone happy. Where your influence doesn’t matter, learn to say “no.” Thoughts like “My parents don’t appreciate me,” “My friends don’t give me time,” or “My loved ones don’t talk to me properly” only create unnecessary stress. Craving attention from others is just another form of emotional burden.
Fairness and Self-Respect
Understand your own strengths and live life from your own perspective. When others don’t make time for you, spend more time with yourself. Stop thinking, “I’m alone” or “There’s no one for me.” The truth is, you are your own best companion. Never forget that your happiness is in your hands.
Often, we seek love and appreciation from others, and when we don’t receive it, we feel disappointed. But imagine—if you become the source of your own happiness, no one will have the power to make you feel miserable.
By adopting this mindset, you can navigate life with the right perspective and, ultimately, create a path to your own peace and happiness.